Positive Thoughts Shared
Love fuels passion, hope and desire. It generates creativity giving us purpose and making us feel alive. When we think of love, we primarily think of romantic love yet love comes in various shades, all unique, all part of fulfilling us with whole enriched lives. However, like the even exchange of the breath, the love we give is the love we receive.
Ten Tips on Loving and Being Loved:
LOVE BEGINS WITH YOU: Your inner voice is where your story of love begins: It is hard to feel worthy of love if someone is criticizing you all the time and especially if that someone is talking in your head. Stop self-loathing; it’s a waste of time. Stop comparing yourself to others and feeling like a victim. Dare to be proud of yourself, look for your strengths, watch for the negative talk and stop it.
GRATITUDE REFLECTION: Like any muscle, the heart get stronger with exercise. Gratitude reflection is a great exercise for opening the heart. Take two minutes each morning when you open your eyes and two minutes each night right before you close them to give thanks. Just go through the list of all the things you are grateful for—beginning with your ability to feel gratitude for the job that gets you out of bed each morning.
DECLARE LOVE: Give passion to everything in your life. Love your walks, your gardening, your age, the family you created, the weather patterns where you live. Grab onto it all as if you might lose it. See through a child’s eyes. Be thrilled and excited about life. Find miracles everywhere. Use the word love more often when describing aspects of your life.
LITTLE IS BIG: A big heart is full of endless possibilities to show love in little ways. Engage in small acts of kindness that cost little money, if any, and take little time. It is amazing how effective small acts of kindness are and how long they are remembered. Open doors, smile, call a friend that is hurting, put a card in the mail, pick up an extra coffee, make “just because” gestures part of your daily life. Don’t think it, do it! And yes, we all have more time for this than we know.
LOVE LIKE THE OCEAN: You have the ability to love like the seven seas reaching around the world and back. And like the ocean putting passion into each and every wave, all your love matters and makes a difference. We are all capable of grand love.
THINK HAMMER INSTEAD OF NAIL: At some time in our lives we will all experience pain and hardships. These experiences hurt and lead us to build walls around us to protect us from others. Yet, pain and hardship are great tools for opening the heart. You must have courage and strength and allow your hardships to open the flow of love in your life.
UNDERSTAND MOTHER NATURE: Mother Nature bestowed us with romantic love so we can reproduce, maternal/paternal love so we can care for the next generation and friendship so we can connect and protect one another. However, in addition to the bonding gift of emotional love, Mother Nature intended love to serve us in many ways. One way is by easing anxiety. The next time you find yourself in a situation with a coworker, stuck in traffic or angry at a stranger, stay in the love. Witness how calmly your body reacts and how much more you can handle in your life.
CUT OTHERS A BREAK: Most people are coming from a place of exhaustion and/or feeling unappreciated. People are overwhelmed and lonely, and Emotions 101 is not taught in any school. Regardless of how easy someone’s life may appear, they have their personal hardships. Simply cut them a break.
REMOVE THE DEBRIS: Think of a river heading home to the sea. As she voyages forward her journey is hampered if debris gets in her way and clogs her up. Anger, resentment, fear, judgment and blame are debris hampering the flow of love in your life. Self reflect, take responsibility and open your heart to love. You can find tools to release the debris by reading books, watching lectures, praying, forgiving others.
LET GO: Many people rarely if ever hear the words, I love you. It can be scary and awkward, but the more you say it the easier it gets. Just say: I love you to your mother, father, sister, brother, friend, anyone you love. End conversations with I love you. Just see how good it feels and how well it is accepted. Witness the love being returned to you. And remember to say, I.
Tricia Lavoice
Here are 7 steps to help you break free of the “I’m Going to Fail” Syndrome:
Work on letting go of your past beliefs, fears, and hang-ups. Start having positive conversations with yourself.
Start believing why you can, as opposed to why you can’t.
Stay focused on your goals and aspirations.
Write all your experiences in your journal. Get them out of your head!
Think of yourself as a winner, rather than a loser. Once you believe in yourself, you’ll be surprised at how others start believing in you more. Remember this statement; “We train others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves.”
Believe in success. When you start believing that you can succeed, it’s surprising how your mind starts to figure out solutions for success. You won’t even contemplate failure.
Visualize and feel yourself in a successful outcome and living a life that you know you’ll love.
All you can do really is give every opportunity your best shot!
John Holland
Here are 10 paths toward a more joyful life:
Define Happiness
What is your definition of a happy life? Are you living it? Think carefully on this because your definition of happiness will influence every other significant decision in your life. For example, if you think happiness is outside you, you will make happiness into a search, a catch, or a reward that you must earn. If, however, you know happiness is inside you then happiness becomes a compass, a teacher, and an enabler that helps you to live your best life.
Accept Yourself
Without self-acceptance, you will limit and block how much happiness, prosperity, love, and success you will enjoy. The miracle of self-acceptance is that if you are willing to accept that happiness already exists in you, you will begin to experience more happiness around you.
Follow Your Joy
There is a world of difference between searching for happiness and following your joy. Following your joy is about listening to your heart’s desires, noticing what truly inspires you, and recognizing your soul’s purpose. A good starting point is to reflect on the question “When am I at my happiest?”
Choose Happiness
Try to find the place in your mind where you have already decided how good today will be, how good this year will be, how good your life will be. Are you happy with your decision? Set a positive intention right now to let today be even more enjoyable than you thought it was going to be.
Free Happiness
A lot of happiness is overlooked because it doesn’t cost anything. If you think money will buy you happiness, you will go shopping for the rest of your life and never be completely satisfied. To enjoy some free happiness, make a list of everything in your life that costs no money and is totally priceless - like laughter, friendship, meditation, air, kindness, and the stars at night.
Love Someone
To be happy, all you have to do is be the most loving person you can be. People who give their best time, energy, and attention to their most important relationships experience more happiness. Stop the busyness, and think about who you would like to spend more time with, acknowledge more, and have more fun with.
Forgive NOW
Sometimes in order to be happy now you have to be willing to give up all hopes for a better past. Living happily ever after starts with forgiveness. You can’t keep carrying a grievance and hope to be happy. Happiness is a gift you give yourself because it sets you free.
Vocal Gratitude
Say out loud three things you are grateful for. Do this right now, before you go on reading this article. Gratitude is often referred to as the shortest shortcut to happiness. The more grateful you are, the happier you will feel.
Beware Martyrdom
A martyr believes they have to sacrifice themselves and happiness in order to enjoy the good things in life. When you try to play the martyr, you lose and so does everyone else. Be kind to yourself. Life always gets better when you treat yourself better.
Be Present
Living in the “not now” is a chief cause of unhappiness. In the English language, the word “present” has three distinct meanings: “here”, “now” and “a gift”. The more present you are in each moment, the more happiness you will find. Happiness is where you are.
~Robert Holden~
Walk your path one step at a time .
Life's circumstances are not always what you might wish them to be.The pattern of life does not necessarily go as you plan. Beyond any understanding, you may at times be led in different directions that you never imagined, dreamed,or designed. Yet if you have never put any effort into choosing a path, or tried to carry out your dream, then perhaps you would have no direction at all.
Rather than wondering about or questioning the direction your life has taken, accept the fact that there is a path before you now. Shake off the "why's" and "what if's" ,and rid yourself of confusion. Whatever was- is in the past.Whatever is - is what's important. The past is a brief reflection.The future is yet to be realized. Today is here.
Walk your path one step at a time - with courage, faith, and determination. Keep your head up, and cast your dreams to the stars. Soon your steps will become firm and your footing will be solid again. A path that you never imagined will become the most comfortable direction you could have ever hoped to follow.
Keep your belief in yourself and walk into your new journey.You will find it magnificent, spectacular, and beyond your wildest imaginings.
Vicki Silvers
Feel the appreciation, happiness, and gratefulness for all that surrounds you and all that is within you.
Imagine having the life that you have always wanted. Then feel inside those feelings that you would have if you were already experiencing all that you desire. Combine that with these feelings of gratitude now for what you do have.
Focus on the positive things in your life. Release the negative thoughts, feeling, and actions. Release those feelings, the people and the things that bring you down or affect you negatively in anyway or at least set boundaries for yourself.
Live your life as if you already have the things that you desire. How? By believing and expressing yourself as if you had them or are living your dreams.
Be grateful for all that you have, for the life you have been given, for your family and friends, your job, and your home. Be thankful and give thanks for the abundance and prosperity that the Universe blesses upon you each and every day.
Feel the appreciation, happiness, and gratefulness for all that surrounds you and all that is within you.
~Positive Thoughts~
Rather than use your time and resources trying to change others, invest this time in changing yourself .
We often fool ourselves into thinking we can change other people into what we think they should be. And we often go to great lengths in attempts to do just that. What an enormous waste of our personal time and talents! Before you disagree, read on and see what has led to this conclusion.
We change only when and if we wish to do so. There are those who say that circumstances force us to change. I say they may give us the motive to change; however, absolutely nothing can change us until or unless we wish to change.
As Dale Carnegie so succinctly stated, "A man convinced against his will is a man unconvinced still."
We cannot change other people, no matter what our motives may be or how much we love them and believe the changes we wish to make in them are for the better.
What then are we to do? Quite simply, love them for what they are and set an example with our own lives that will make them wish to change. This is not to say that guidance is not required. We all need guidance and instruction from time to time. This is particularly true for children.
Several wise people have stated that you must be the change you seek to find in your world. When we change ourselves to be the best we can be and to conform to our desires, we set an example for others. It is their choice to follow our example or not.
The closer our example conforms to their basic desires and needs, the better the chances they will desire to change and follow it.
"Rather than use your time and resources trying to change others, invest this time in changing yourself and you will be amazed at the amount of grief and turmoil you will avoid."
Robert Taylor
On Strength by Kent Nerburn
We each have a different kind of strength. Some of us are able to persevere against hopeless odds. Some are able to see light in a world of darkness. Some are able to give selflessly with no thought of return, while others are able to bring a sense of importance into the hearts of those around them.
But no matter how we exhibit strength, its truest measure is the calm and certain conviction with which it causes us to act. It is the ability to discern the path with heart, and follow it even when at the moment we might wish to be doing something else.
True strength is not about force, but about conviction. It lives at the center of belief where fear and uncertainty cannot gain a foothold. Its opposite is not cowardice and fear, but confusion, lack of clarity, and lack of sound intention.
True strength does not require an adversary and does not see itself as noble or heroic. It simply does what it must without praise or need of recognition.
A person who can quietly stay at home and care for an ailing parent is as strong as a person who can climb a mountain. A person who can stand up for a principle is as strong as a person who can fend off an army. They simply have quieter, less dramatic, kinds of strength.
True strength does not magnify others' weaknesses. It makes others stronger. If someone's strength makes others feel weaker, it is merely domination, and that is no strength at all.
Take care to find your own true strength. Nurture it. Develop it. Share it with those around you. Let it become a light for those who are living in darkness.
Remember, strength based in force is a strength people fear. Strength based in love is a strength people crave.
Source: Positive Thoughts
There is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to love yourself.
I have found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is:
to love yourself. When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.
Here are 12 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself:
Stop All Criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
Forgive Yourself.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently
Don’t Scare Yourself.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought
Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
Be Kind to Your Mind.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
Praise Yourself.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Support Yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
Be Loving to Your Negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.
Take Care of Your Body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
Do Mirror Work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, "I love you, I really love you!
Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.
Have Fun.
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!
Louise L. Hay
Ten Thoughts to Help You Avoid Discouragement
1. Look at life as a journey and enjoy the ride.Get the most out of the detours and realize they're sometimes necessary.
2. Do your best, but if what you're doing has caused you discouragement, try a different approach. Be passionate about the process, but don't be so attached to the outcome.
3. Wish the best for everyone, with no personal strings attached. Applaud someone else's win as much as you would your own.
4. Trust that there's a divine plan, that we don't always know what's best for us. A disappointment now could mean a victory later, so don't be disappointed. There is usually a reason.
5. Ask no more of yourself than the best that you can do, and be satisfied with that. Be compassionate towards yourself as well as others. Know your calling, your gift, and do it well.
6. Don't worry about something after it's done; it's out of your hands then, too late, over! Learn the lesson and move on.
7. Have the attitude that no one, except you, owes you anything. Give without expecting a thank-you in return. But when someone does something for you, be appreciative of even the smallest gesture.
8. Choose your thoughts or your thoughts will choose you; they will free you or keep you bound. Educate your spirit and give it authority over your feelings.
9. Judge no one, and disappointment and forgiveness won't be an issue. No one can let you down if you're not leaning on them. People can't hurt you unless you allow them to.
10. Love anyway. . . for no reason. . . and give. . . just because.
~Donna Fargo
Love is a gift.
The world is full of beauty when your heart is full of love. So start and end your day with love and smile in your heart. It’s not the presence of someone that bring meaning to life, but the way someone Touches your Heart gives life a Beautiful Meaning.
The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it - WINGS!
We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.
Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to that as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless. Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love...
The only thing that ever limits us is our thinking
“Life is simple. What we give out, we get back.”
The past has no power over us. Even problems have no power over us. Our power lies in the thoughts that we choose to think today. Remember, there are endless opportunities for good before us.
We can think happy thoughts.
We can think positive thoughts.
We can say, “Yes, I can do it!”
We can think thoughts that make us feel joyous.
We can learn to think only about all the good in the world.
We can lift our thoughts up.
We can greet the day with a smile.
We can let the world know that we’re happy to be alive.
We can express gratitude at every turn.
We can love our bodies.
We can be our best friend.
By our actions, we’ll be an example for our children. Just by watching us, they’ll learn how to create a happy and fulfilling life.
Our reward is that we get to watch day by day as our lives turn into the most joyous, loving, healthy, prosperous, fabulous experiences. And this will last for all the rest of our days on Earth. So train yourself to think thoughts that make you feel good. That way, you’ll always be creating your life
out of joy and
in joy. Joy always brings more to be joyous about.
Affirm:
I am the only thinker in my mind; and I choose to think joyous, happy, loving, positive thoughts 24/7. I love Life and Life loves me.
You Can Create An Exceptional Life
Everyday is a new beginning. Treat it that way.
Every day is a new beginning. Treat it that way. Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.
"This very instant" is all we have. We make plans for the future, we invoke memories of the past, but really, all we have to deal with and to act in is the moment at hand. We cannot stop its going; we cannot hurry the next moment on its way. Like everyone else in the world, we're partners in the dull, humdrum, dazzling, fabulous, totally unpredictable moment.
And if we have a time that is "out time," it's right now. It has to be, because there isn't any other. Maybe we've had times in the past that were special for us; maybe the future will hold precious moments. But the only time that is truly "our time" is this time, where we are, right now. And what we do with this time is ours to decide.
"We can smile, breathe, walk, and eat our meals in a way that allows us to be in touch with the abundance of happiness that is available. We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living. We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive. Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy, and serenity. We need only to be awake, alive in the present moment." ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Follow your heart and be true to yourself.
Your attitude influences your world and everything you do in it. It defines the energy you send out and, in turn, takes shape and color in your circumstances. If you have a positive attitude, you are more welcoming and people are drawn to you. A positive attitude opens you to the flow of life. If you are depressed, angry, and unhappy, no one wants to be around you. You literally push people and opportunities away.
To attract positive, joyful, and prosperous situations to you, you must be that way yourself. If you have an open, loving, positive attitude, anything burdensome in life can be lightened. Therefore, it is important to be aware of your mood. It is created by your thoughts. Every day you have a choice of how you will behave, the mood you will give out to the world, and how you want people to know you.
So if you want something in your life, first you must think of it, put your intention behind it, and keep your focus on it. It is almost like baking a cake. The thought is in the oven and you have to keep it baking with belief. You have to see your thought manifesting and becoming real.
Follow your heart and be true to yourself. Never live the life of another. You have to create your own road. You have a responsibility to be the best you can possibly be, so keep your mind and heart open to the higher aspects of your being. And you will harness the power to have a loving and fulfilling life with attitude!
~James Van Praagh~
We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are. The Talmud
"It is the mind which creates the world around us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours, my heart will never stir to the emotions with which yours is touched." ~George Gissing
Your world is not my world. What I see is not the same as what you see, even if we're standing together. Your experiences and your likes and dislikes make your view completely unique, just as my experiences make mine very special.
Our inability to see or accept this fact is one of the greatest contributors to discord and dissatisfaction in the world, though. We get frustrated when people don't see things "our way," and millions of kids and adults every day are taught to see things in the teacher's way. They're even graded as to whether or not they've adopted the teachers' perspectives, and they're penalized with low grades if they don't see the information in the way the school wants them to see it.
We have to wake up to realize that seeing things differently is a blessing, not a curse. If someone disagrees with us, we don't have to take that disagreement personally--that's the way that person sees the world. If we can't grasp a particular concept, it's often better to move on to something that we can grasp rather than agonizing over our inability to see something the way someone else saw it.
We weren't all meant to do things the same way--art and music would be very boring if we were--yet somehow we've bought into the idea that we all should see the world in a similar fashion. That's not the way it is, though--we all see the world in our unique way, and we should celebrate not just our unique vision that may not fit in with someone else's, but the unique visions of others, even thought they may not fit in with ours. Beautyinnature
A Creed To Live by Nancye Sims
Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.
It is because we are different that each of us are special. Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only do what is best for you.
Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them life is meaningless.
Don't let life slip through your fingers by living in the past or in the future. By living one day at a time you live all days of your life.
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is the fragile thread that binds us to each other.
Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Don't shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible. The fastest way to lose love is to hold to it tightly, and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
Don't dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope, to be without hope is to be without purpose.
Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savoured each step of the way.
By Nancye Sims
Relationships
Relationships - of all kinds
are like sand held in your hand.
Held loosely with an open hand,
the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand
and squeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold on to some of it,
but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely, with respect
and freedom for the other person,
it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively,
and the relationship slips away and is lost.
''Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." ~Anthony Robbins
Treasure your relationships
''Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of them, rather than what they can put into them. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you'd like to see "show up," not what part of another you can capture and hold. The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. '' ~Neale Donald Walsch
When someone is in your life for a REASON. It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Healing is releasing from the past. It is retraining my mind so as not to see the shadow of the past on anyone. It is learning not to make interpretations of people's behavior or motives. It is letting go the desire to want to change another person. It is letting go of expectations , assumptions , and the desire to control or manipulate another person...
Healing is knowing that forgiveness is the key to happiness and offers me everything that I want. Healing is knowing that the only reality in the universe is love , and that love is the most important healer known to the world.
To heal is to trust in a creative force that is loving and forgiving , and to know in our hearts that there is no separation and we are all joined in love with God and each other. It means that all hearts and minds are joined as one...
Healing is letting go of the fearful child so many of us carry inside , and awakening to the innocent child who has always been within us.
Healing is peeling away the barriers of fear that keep us unaware of our true nature of love,peace,and rich interconnection with the web of life.Healing is the rediscovery of who we have always been.
By Gerald Jampolsky
I wish you the ability to let go.
I wish you the ability to let go, the ability to allow yourself to allow life to do its thing without you attempting to control the outcomes of everything that goes on around you. I hope that you always will be able to recognize the situations over which you truly have no control, and try to let them be, accepting the outcomes as they are, and not judging them based on what you wanted them to be.
I wish you the ability to see when attempts to control are appropriate, and when things are best left alone. I wish you the ability to allow things to occur without your input; sometimes our most important contribution is simply to observe. We can support and love without telling others what to do, without trying to help them in every facet of their lives; we must let others learn in their own ways and make their own mistakes . Just as we don't accompany our children to every single class in school that they attend, we don't need to be there to guide them through every one of life's lessons.
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Every moment you have a choice.
Everything you know is based on what has already happened in your life. And yet, your only influence right now is over things that have not yet happened. The things that have already happened have gotten you to where you are right now. What you need to be concerned with, however, is where to go from here.
Because you're so intimately familiar with your own past, it may seem that you have no choice but to continue moving in the same direction as before. But that is not true. Your future does not equal your past. Right now, there are an infinite number of paths which you can take. The one you're currently on is only one of them. Any of the rest are available to you.
If you're completely satisfied with where you're going, then by all means keep on going that way. But there is no reason in the world why you have to keep following that same path if it is not bringing you full and lasting fulfillment.
Every moment you have a choice, regardless of what has happened before. Choose right now to move forward, positively and confidently into your incredible future.
~Author Unknown~
Free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment.
''One forgives to the degree that one loves. '' Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Anytime you’re filled with resentment, you’re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.
Removing resentment and blame from your life means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you’re experiencing. It means that you’re willing to say, “I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why I’ve been victimized, or why I had this accident, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life.” Why do this? If you take responsibility for having it, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it.
First, you have to get past blame. Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment. Just as no one can define you, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you’ll be able to live a life of contentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy.
At the root of virtually all spiritual practice is the notion of forgiveness. Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you. Your experience of them is nothing more that a thought that you carry around with you. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you. If you could release them, you would know more peace.
You practice forgiveness for two reasons: to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with them and to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment. Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.
By Wayne Dyer
The Universe
How You Create Your Reality -
The universe supports the reality of your beliefs absolutely.
When you believe
you must struggle for abundance,
then it will bring about situations that are
conducive to struggle; when you believe you cannot
experience love without pain, the universe will give you exactly
that - love with pain; when you believe it takes time for an illness
to heal - then so it will. There is not a single force opposing you,
there is only ONE force supporting you absolutely. It is called
LOVE, the force that birthed you, that created you in its
own image. This love is so magnanimous it will give
you exactly and absolutely whatever it is
that your reality entails.
Change your beliefs and you change your reality.
A way to be happy.
In over a dozen years as a stress consultant, one of the most pervasive and destructive mental tendencies I've seen is that of focusing on what we want instead of what we have. It doesn't seem to make any difference how much we have; we just keep expanding our list of desires, which guarantees we will remain dissatisfied. The mind-set that says "I'll be happy when this desire is fulfilled" is the same mind-set that will repeat itself once that desire is met.
We want this or that. If we don't get what we want we keep thinking about all that we don't have--and we remain dissatisfied. If we do get what we want, we simply re-create the same thinking in our new circumstances. So, despite getting what we want, we still remain unhappy. Happiness can't be found when we are yearning for new desires.
Luckily, there is a way to be happy. It involves changing the emphasis of our thinking from what we want to what we have. Rather than wishing your spouse were different, try thinking about her wonderful qualities. Instead of complaining about your salary, be grateful that you have a job. Rather than wishing you were able to take a vacation to Hawaii, think of how much fun you have had close to home. The list of possibilities is endless!
Each time you notice yourself falling into the "I wish life were different" trap, back off and start over. Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for. When you focus not on what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want anyway. If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse, she'll be more loving. If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it, you'll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway. If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home rather than than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii, you'll end up having more fun. If you ever do get to Hawaii, you'll be in the habit of enjoying yourself. And, if by some chance you don't, you'll have a great life anyway.
By Richard Carlson.
By focusing on what is good in your life, more goodness will flow to you.
Learn to love yourself enough so that when someone enters your life that treats you negatively,you can stand up for yourself and have the strength to let them go. You can learn that it is okay to say no to anyone who is not willing to treat you with the love and respect you not only want, but also deserve. Have the courage to walk away from anything that does not serve you well. Search for your highest good.
You may be thinking right now, how do I go about this when I do not have the things that would make me content? What is in your world externally is nothing more than a mirror of what is going on internally. So to change the external vision of what your world appears to be, go within and change it there, then the outward vision will change to mirror the inward feelings.
Understand that every new path has a beginning and a first step. To pursue anything new, all you have to do is to take one-step at a time. And that is the step before you. If we learn to feel and believe that we have all that we desire and want in life and accept what has been granted to us, more will come.
It is all about appreciation and gratitude. If you could learn to appreciate and have gratitude by focusing on what is good in your life, more goodness will flow to you. If we complain that we do not have those things, then that is where our focus is and that is what we will continue to attract to us. If we think and imagine having the life we desire, and act and feel as we have it within, it is sure to appear before us.
When negative events occur in your life, if you look for the silver lining in the dark rain cloud, you will learn that good is always flowing toward you, if you have but the eyes to see it. And when you embrace the good that comes from that stormy rain cloud, you are transforming the energy of what you previously deemed as something negative into some positive. When you sing this new song, more “good” things can flow to you.
Friendship
Friends can be an extension or a substitute for the nuclear family. There is a great need in most of us to share life experiences with others. Not only do we learn more about others when we engage in friendship, but we can also learn more about ourselves.
Relationships are mirrors of ourselves. What we attract always mirrors either qualities we have or beliefs we have about relationships. The things we don’t like about our friends are either reflections of what we do or what we believe. We could not attract such people if the way they are didn’t somehow complement our own lives.
When the bond between friends becomes strained, we can look to the negative messages of childhood to understand why. For instance, if we have a friend who is undependable and lets us down, we need to turn within. We need to see where we are undependable and when we let others down. Then, we need to perform a mental housecleaning, removing the negative messages and learning to accept ourselves so that we can accept others.
It’s pointless to run around trying to heal all of our friends. We cannot force others to change. We can offer them a positive mental atmosphere where they have the possibility to change if they wish, but we cannot do it for or to other people. Each person is here to work out his or her own lessons, and if we fix it for them, then they will just go and do it again, because they have not worked out what they needed to do for themselves.
All we can do is love them and allow them to be who they are.
By Louise L. Hay
How do we love others? Accept them as they are. Allow them to be themselves.
How do we love others?
Stop trying to change them. Let them take care of their own growth processes. We can’t learn for another. If their behavior is detrimental to us, then we may choose not to be in their presence—and that is fine. We must love ourselves enough not to be brought down by self-destructive people. If we have many negative people in our lives, then we can look to see what pattern there is in us that attracts these people to us.
When we change, we drop our pattern and we become different, the others will also change in the way they relate to our new personalities, or they will leave our lives so that new people who will appreciate us are then able to enter. Whichever way it happens, it is always a positive move for us when we love and accept ourselves.
Another powerful tool for healing all relationships—family, work, casual, or intimate—is “blessing with love.” When someone is doing something to disrupt the harmony of your life, bless them with love. You can do it several ways. You can say, “I bless you with love, and I bring harmony to this situation,” or “I bless you with love, and ‘I’ release you and let you go,” or “I release you to your highest good.”
~Louise L. Hay~
How we see things determines more of our happiness our unhappiness.
We do a lot of vacillating between old ideas and new ways of thinking. Be patient with yourself through this process. Beating yourself up only keeps you stuck. It's better to build yourself up instead. Anything you say or think is an affirmation. Really be aware of your thoughts and your words; you might discover that a lot of them are very negative. Many people tend to approach life through negative eyes. They take an ordinary situation like a rainy day and say something like, "Oh what a terrible day." It isn't a terrible day. It's a wet day. To create a wonderful day sometimes takes just a slight change in the way you look at it. Be willing to let go of an old, negative way that you look at something, and look at it in a new, positive way.
~Louise L. Hay~
The unhappiness we experience is not so much a result of the difficulties encountered along our journey as it is of our misperception of how life instructs us. We may see a failed relationship as an indictment of our self-worth when it is really a lesson in using better judgment, in valuing ourselves more, in expressing greater appreciation for our partner--lessons to prepare us for a more loving and fulfilling union. If we are passed over for a much-anticipated promotion, it may be just the push we need to get more training or to venture out on our own as an entrepreneur. As we rise to meet the challenges that are a natural part of living, we awaken to our many undiscovered gifts, to our inner power and our purpose.
~Susan L. Taylor~
To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love.
''Forgiveness means letting go of a hurtful situation and moving on with your own happiness.'' ~Amanda Ford
The act of forgiveness is a necessary and truly transformational process. You must be willing to forgive any person or situation that has caused you pain, and release them.
By hanging on to old negative thoughts and emotions you are only harming yourself and attracting even more negative energy.
It's been said that when you are unwilling to forgive someone it's like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to get sick! So, just bless the person or the situation and wish them well. Forgive them, let them go, and be willing to forgive yourself as well, if need be.
By acknowledging your positive past and releasing your negative past - you can make room for a beautiful future .
True forgiveness is extremely cathartic - it will cleanse you and set you free. It is an incredible powerful process, one that will immediately shift you from a place of pain and anger to a higher vibrational frequency of love.
The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person.
When we blame another, we give our power away because we’re placing the responsibility for our feelings on someone else. People in our lives may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in us. However, they didn’t get into our minds and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for our own feelings and reactions is mastering our “ability to respond.” In other words, we learn to consciously choose rather than simply react.
We can’t talk about resentment without also talking about forgiveness. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that we condone their behavior. The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting ourselves free from holding on to the pain. It’s simply an act of releasing ourselves from the negative energy.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes, forgiveness means letting go. You forgive them and release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries are often the most loving things you can do—not only for yourself, but for the other person as well.
No matter how much chaos may be going on around us, no matter how many things may be going wrong or not the way we want them to, no matter what our bodies may be doing at the moment—we can love and accept ourselves. For the truth of us—the very truth of our being—is that we’re eternal. We have always been and we always will be. And that part of ourselves goes on forever. Rejoice that this is so. As we love and accept ourselves exactly as we are, it makes it easier to go through the so-called difficult times. We’re no longer fighting ourselves. We’re accepting. We’re becoming tender. We’re cherishing ourselves. We’re comforting ourselves and making it easier for ourselves.
Louise L. Hay
View every experience as a GIFT
View every experience as a GIFT. If you look back at occurrences in your life, you can easily see how even the worst situations you experienced in your life ended up teaching you invaluable lessons and therefore ended up putting you in the perfect place for your continuing development. When you view every experience, the good, the bad, and the ugly as a GIFT, life flows more like a gentle, inspiring breeze.
Suspend judgment. This world is laden with judgment, irresponsibility, and finger pointing. One judges another to feel less guilty about one’s own misgivings. Judgment energy is dense, dark, and heavy. On the other hand, unconditional acceptance is light, free, and accepting. Let go of judging and criticizing yourself and others. Everyone is on a different path, and some appear to be further ahead on their path than others. Neither path is better nor worse than another. Raise your consciousness to one of acceptance.
Live each day as though it were your last. If today was your last known day in this lifetime, with what type of people would you surround yourself? What would you say to the people you care about? What personal gifts would you make sure you imparted to humanity and the earth? Live each day as if it was your last, and you will be living in a state of light, love and unconditional contribution.
Living in the Moment by Paul Bauer.
Buddha taught his students to be here now, in this moment. For this is the only moment we have--as you're reading this wisdom now--this is the only moment you have. This is the place where God is, in this space of time, a time like no other--a time to listen to your Heart, not just your mind--and trusting your Heart's wisdom like you would a trusted friend or loved one.
As you read this, think of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for today. Your health, your job, your intellect, your physical body (your own temple), your home, your friends. . . the list is as infinite as you are.
Take a moment to reflect. . . to embrace the real you, the True you that honors people and is creative, the True you that is sacred, as are your Dreams in life. . .
Pause for a moment. . .
Breathe. . .
Listen to the song inside you. . . that wonderful resonance inside you that longs to be heard...
And when you listen to its sweet call, you are present, you are loved, you are infinite, you are divine. Allow this magnificent feeling to wash over you. . . to move through you. . . as if you were on a beautiful sandy beach of your Dreams. . . smelling the salt sea air. . . feeling the gentle trade winds move through your hair. . . feeling the soft sand at your feet. . . feeling grounded. . .
Allowing any stress you may have to just effortlessly wash away with with flow of the tides. . . Remembering that you are part of the azure ocean before you. . . it is your Source and you are its beginning. . .
Feeling present. . . feeling grounded. . . allowing this moment to be you. . .
And you are better for this. . .
And so it is. . .
As you make your way today, remember this feeling. This feeling that you have all you need to create what you desire already inside you. Knowing that you are on purpose. . . embracing each moment for its sweetness and beauty--even when it seems difficult. As you do this, you will attract what you most passionately desire.
I wish you many blessings.
Strength based in love is a strength people crave.
We each have a different kind of strength. Some of us are able to persevere against hopeless odds. Some are able to see light in a world of darkness. Some are able to give selflessly with no thought of return, while others are able to bring a sense of importance into the hearts of those around them.
But no matter how we exhibit strength, its truest measure is the calm and certain conviction with which it causes us to act. It is the ability to discern the path with heart, and follow it even when at the moment we might wish to be doing something else.
True strength is not about force, but about conviction. It lives at the center of belief where fear and uncertainty cannot gain a foothold. Its opposite is not cowardice and fear, but confusion, lack of clarity, and lack of sound intention.
True strength does not require an adversary and does not see itself as noble or heroic. It simply does what it must without praise or need of recognition.
A person who can quietly stay at home and care for an ailing parent is as strong as a person who can climb a mountain. A person who can stand up for a principle is as strong as a person who can fend off an army. They simply have quieter, less dramatic, kinds of strength.
True strength does not magnify others' weaknesses. It makes others stronger. If someone's strength makes others feel weaker, it is merely domination, and that is no strength at all.
Take care to find your own true strength. Nurture it. Develop it. Share it with those around you. Let it become a light for those who are living in darkness.
Remember, strength based in force is a strength people fear. Strength based in love is a strength people crave.
Reach inside, touch your most compelling purpose, and bring your best possibilities to life.
You are right where you should be at this moment. Now it is time to move on to what is next.
Whether your life up to this point has been easy or whether it has been difficult, you are here just the same. And your destiny does not care about your past.
There are plenty of reasons why you find yourself here at this time. What matter much more, though, are the reasons you now have for moving forward.
As good as they have been, your triumphs of the past are now little more than pleasant memories. As painful as they once were, your past failures are now behind you.
Do you realize how completely free you are at this very moment? Do you understand that the main thing holding you back is your belief that something is holding you back?
Today is your opportunity to fully taste that freedom and to finally get beyond the limits you've imposed on yourself. Reach inside, touch your most compelling purpose, and bring your best possibilities to life.
~Ralph Marston~
Being disappointed is all about perspective.
It took me a long time to realize this. I was under the impression that if someone did something I didn't like, or a situation evolved that I wasn't happy with, then I had the "right" to be disappointed.
So how do we change our perceptions? By becoming more aware of what your perceptions and beliefs are. You cannot change what you do not understand. So spend some time looking internally and when you become disappointed, think about what is disappointing you.
Is it really the situation or the person, or is it because they are not behaving in a way you believe they should behave? Then slowly as you do this, force yourself to look at the bigger picture of what is going on.
Force yourself to see the situation from a new perspective and offer positive spins on what has happened. I believe that the more you do this, the less you will be disappointed because you will stop taking things so personally.
You will also begin to realize that the way things turn out are the way things are supposed to turn out, whether they are in line with your beliefs or not. This will lead you to feeling more in control of your emotions as well as of your behaviors and actions.
You will also be able to use any challenge as an opportunity to grow, develop, and move your life forward, because you will not continuously be knocked down by disappointment.
~Kim Eickhoff
Are you ready to acknowledge how powerful you really are?
Emotion is the energy that moves you.When you find your life stuck in a pattern-repeatedly reacting to the same person,allergen,food or time of day or any other life experience in a negative or painful way. It's a sign that the energy moving you is motivated by survival and protection rather than your present circumstances.
The LifeLine Law of Transformation and Creation states: Emotions transform energy; energy creates movement; movement is change; and change is the essence of life. More than the fear of death, it's the fear of change that keeps people stuck in a cycle of self-destruction and self-defeat. When you're able to embrace change, follow your heart, and go with the flow, you're emotionally flowing through life, and life is emotionally flowing through you.
Are you ready to acknowledge how powerful you really are?
You're already pure love, beautiful, special, accepting, forgiving, grateful, compassionate, kind, intelligent, successful, funny,creative,joyous, wonderful, fantastic, passionate, humble, confident, and peaceful beyond measure. This is your truth. You'll now realize with your ''real eyes" that when you're feeling anything but powerful, beautiful, and special, it's your subconscious mind urging you to choose love.
Choose love. Choose to be an ambassador of light in a world that so sorely needs a way out of the darkness of pain, shame, guilt, and fear.
Awakening to the Secret Code of Your Mind
Your perception is what you project. And what you project is what comes back!
True self-awareness, plus the ability to choose our perceptions of life, the universe and everything, is the basis of free will. Every situation and scene in front of us has so many possibilities in terms of how we perceive and interpret. If someone is 10% selfish and 90% generous what should we focus on, what should we perceive first within them? Most of us are now well trained to perceive and focus on the negative, the selfishness in others, and to follow it quickly with accusation and judgement. We forget that what we perceive is what we empower within another and, more importantly what we perceive is what we empower within ourselves in that moment. And what we choose to see is usually what we get. So how important is it that we choose to perceive only the best, the highest, the greatest in another, even if its only a half a percent? Bosses and parents - take note!! Dont forget - your perception is your reality. Your perception is what you project. And what you project is what comes back!
~Innerspace~
Based on what you give, that is what you receive.
With every single person you come into contact, you are either giving love or you're not. And based on what you give, that is what you receive.
Give love to others through kindness, encouragement, support, gratitude, or any good feeling, and it comes back to you multiplied in every area of your life.
Look for the things you love in a relationship more than you notice negative things and it will appear as if something incredible has happened to the other person.
You have to be happy to receive the happy versions of other people!
The force of love presents you with a whole array of Personal Emotional Trainers, disguised as everyday people, but they are all training you to choose love!
Life is presenting every person and circumstance to you so you can choose what you love and what you don't love. When you react to anything you are reacting with your feelings, and as you do, you are choosing it!
Changing the way you feel is easy compared to running around trying to change the circumstances of the outside world.Change your feelings and the outside circumstances will change!
by Rhonda Byrne
Source: Positive Thoughts
